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Words of Wisdom from Joe Bruno.

POSTED May 07, 2019
BY Timothy W. Gaffney
Twitter: @TimothyGaffney


Words of Wisdom from Joe Bruno

Joe Bruno has been involved with Torrington High School sports for many a decade.

He was the long-time score keeper for former Raider boys’ basketball coach Tony Turina and watched the good, the bad and the ugly of how parents (not, all, just some) acted when it came to their children participating in youth sports.

On occasion, each of has seen THAT parent, the one that we sometimes might have been or showed signs of not quite acting as we should on the sidelines of a sporting event.

“I was at work one day,” Bruno said. “And I just started writing until I had this list.”

Raising a child is not an easy task, nor is coaching said child.

Below is Joe Bruno’s thoughts on how we just might make things a bit easier for all involved.

It’s a great list.    

On Having a High School Child

  1. Let your child decide which activity they want.
  2. Support you child in whatever activity they choose.
  3. Support your child’s teammates equally in whatever activity they choose.
  4. Do not put any unnecessary pressure on your child to excel. They have enough pressure on them as it is.
  5. Not only talk to your child but more importantly listen to what they have to say. They are smarter than you give them credit for.
  6. Be there for you child, no matter what happens.
  7. Do not butt into your child’s problems. Let them fight their own battles.
  8. Let your child enjoy their high school years. They are some of the best years of their lives.
  9. Do not expect more out of your child’s high school activity than what it is. Just a high school activity, not a college or professional activity.
  10. Let the kids be kids. The key word here is kids. 14-18 years old, not 25-30 years old.
  11. Act like a grown-up at your child’s activity, you set the example.

On having a Child on a High School Team

  1. Contrary to what you may think, you don’t know more than your child’s coach.
  2. Your high school career has no bearing on your child’s career.
  3. Just because you child is on a team and attends practice does not mean all members are equal in talent.
  4. Playing time during a game is the coaches call, not yours.
  5. What your child does at practice and their understanding of the plays will dictate their playing time.
  6. If your child does deserve more playing time, he or she will get it.
  7. If your child does not play as much as they feel they or does not get into a game at all, there are more reasons why then you might care to know.
  8. It is a privilege and honor to represent your classmates and school as a member of a team.
  9. Be a fan, not a critic.

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