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A moving Mother's Day tribute by Kelly Considine to her mom, Susan.

POSTED May 08, 2016
BY Timothy W. Gaffney
Twitter: @TimothyGaffney

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers out there!

I am so honored to have the opportunity to pay tribute to my wonderful mother, Susan, again this year!

I was diagnosed with a painful nerve condition, Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS), over 10 years ago.

Each passing year seems to come with additional diagnoses, more treatments, and even more unanswered questions.

Unfortunately, this past year was no different, and it was filled with more surgeries, trials, and tribulations.

I say “I was diagnosed,” but in reality it is a diagnosis that has brought a burden I have not had to carry alone.

Exodus 18:18 says, “You will surely wear yourself out, and not only yourself but also these people with you. The task is too heavy for you; you cannot do it alone.”

This bible verse hits close to home because I have seen the toll that my condition has taken not only on myself but also on my family.

I have seen my mom and dad go above and beyond to ease my burden, and I am eternally grateful.

Without their love and support, I don’t know where I would be today.

Mom, I know I get frustrated, and at times have taken it out on you, but I realize that although I have to live with this condition and its complications, you too are living it.

I can see your frustration and hurt, and although I never want to see you that way, it shows how much you care.

Time and time again we have gotten our hopes up when it comes to a new surgery or treatment, and I can see the hurt in your eyes when these treatments fall short of providing me the relief we hoped for.

Thank you for being there to pick me up when I have been let down and for being my source of encouragement to keep going until I get answers and can find something to ease the pain!

I am beyond lucky to call you my mom. No one can compare to you, and I can’t imagine having to face these day-to-day battles without your assistance and encouragement.

I know I am quick to say “no one understands,” but you have seen me on my best days and helped me through my worst and been by my side for everything in between. Your resilience is astounding!

You are my biggest advocate, and you wear so many hats when it comes to my care. You take on the role of nurse when it comes to organizing and dispensing my countless medications.

You play secretary when you help me schedule my never ending appointments. You make a great chef accommodating all of my allergies and modifying meals to fit my needs. Not many people realize that I rely on you for almost every step of my day.

It is humbling to admit that I need help brushing my hair, tying my shoes, zipping a jacket, cutting my food, and the list seems to grow as my condition worsens. I am thankful that you don’t even bat an eye when I face a new challenge and need more assistance.

At the end of the day, I think I am most impressed by your relentlessness. You have the hardest job of all…there are no vacation days, you are on the clock 24/7, and even when you have the occasional “sick day,” I can see you itching to get back on your feet to assist me.

When things get tough or are too overwhelming you are there to calm me down.

When I get upset that I am missing out on things a “normal” 27 year old should be doing, you are there to remind me of all the things I still can do. Despite the circumstances, I am so thankful for how close we are and the relationship we have built!

You are the first person I turn to for advice, and I look up to you and commend you for the family you have built and the life you and Dad have provided Rachel and I!

No words could do justice to such an amazing woman. You are the strongest person I know, and I am constantly amazed at how selfless you are.

You are the perfect example of someone who loves abundantly and unconditionally. Rachel and I couldn’t have asked for a better role model.

So for all the times it goes unsaid, thank you for everything!

Happy Mother’s Day!

I love, respect, and admire you more than you could ever know!

You deserve more than just one day of recognition, but please know that I aspire to be like you more and more with each passing day.

I know with you in my corner, I, or should I say WE, will overcome this!




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